Touched by loss. Empowered through community.

From Pieces to Whole

Date: 
Monday, October 29, 2012
Posted By: 
Jodi Salata

Today, we welcome guest writer, Jodi Salata.  Jodi lives in the far northern suburbs with her two sons, ages 5 and 8.  She is in the process of becoming a Life Coach.  You can find her Facebook page here.  Thanks for sharing, Jodi!

My husband John died December 2009, from a sudden heart attack. 6 days before Christmas and 7 days before his 43rd birthday. I awoke that cold morning to a cold body next to me. I was shattered--everything I had known, everything that was going to be, gone... The Jodi I was died that day too. Since then I have been putting the pieces of me back together. Some are in new places, some have been replaced. But I'm becoming whole and the person I've always wanted to be.

Early on, I came to a place of peace knowing that whatever was going to be, we were going to be ok. I don't remember much of the early days but I do remember that. I spent a lot of time in solitude, stillness. I spent a lot of time at the beach--water is very healing to the soul. Maybe finding too much comfort in alcohol. I learned to melt into the pain & emotions I was feeling instead of resisting them. The more you fight against what you feel, the harder it pushes back. I realized the world was wide open to me. Everything I had known was gone and the future was unknown. I could do anything, go anywhere, be anyone. During this time of creating myself, my sister told me to try anything that held any interest to me. I listened and from there I have been living and experiencing new things. I started taking guitar lessons. I took pictures and considered photography classes. I knew I had to live, learn & grow in honor of my husband who no longer could. Today I do things that sing to my soul. I continue to learn & grow.

A little over a year ago, I co-created a widowed support group* for local widowed people. I was looking for more support and couldn't find any so a few of us decided to create the support we needed. From there, I have gone on to find my calling, life coaching. As hard as this journey has been, it has also been rewarding & amazing. I have learned so much about myself, the person who I truly am and what is most important in life. I have learned that I am the creator of my life and in my story I chose to be the heroine. Pain & loss have been my greatest teacher--a gift. I want my boys to look at me and see not only a woman who survived, but who lived. A woman who chased big dreams and lived a joyous life no matter the circumstances.

Today Jodi is a widow, vegan, life coach and mom to 2 sweet boys. A spiritual seeker who lives from a place of love. I can't wait to see where she will go from here.

Widowed and Healing (W&H) is a group for local widow(er)s in the far northern suburbs. We offer virtual support & understanding from a place of love and non-judgment. We also meet socially and for support group about once a month.  If you are interested in learning more about W&H, please send an email to info@chicagolandwidowed.org for more information.

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Jodi, That was an unimaginable circumstance you found yourself in. I will send you lots of love and prayers for your continued healing and growth. I'm so glad you found your way to constructive avenues, even serving others through coaching. Keep on keeping on. Live Your Dreams, Jill

Jodi, I am so proud of you and so blessed our paths crossed at what was one of my darkest hours, your continued support has changed my life in ways you don't even know...I am happy to call you my friend, much love...peace & blessings to you & the boys <3

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