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It's Been Amazing!

Monday, August 15, 2016
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I’ve been learning a lot in these 7 ½ years as a widow.  I’ve learned a lot about me, my children, my family, my friends, and about human nature in this journey. 


In 7 ½ years, I lost my first love of my life.  Dick and I had over 20 years together and through good times and bad times, we had a lot of things to be proud of.  Our 2 children are my constant reminder of all that was good about us. 


In 7 ½ years, I’ve learned to make a lot of decisions on my own.  I was never alone in making these decisions, and sometimes the decisions were great ones and not-so-great ones.  But I learned a lot about my ability to get up every morning and try to move forward and move through my grief.


In 7 ½ years, I got a Master’s Degree for my work as a teacher.  I found that education helped me repair a very large hole in my heart and helped me find new passion in my career and in helping my students.  My schoolwork was healing in itself.


In 7 ½ years, I found the second love of my life.  When I met Tim for coffee in July 2012, I hadn’t been on many dates and was feeling many butterflies in my stomach.  From that day forward, he has shown me incredible grace, love, patience, and support in so many ways.  He has been my guiding light in this journey of forward movement.


I hope I don’t sound like I’m bragging here.  There have been highs and lows, just like any one else’s life.  But when I think of how far I have come, it is with a very glad heart.  If anyone is reading this and you are in your first year or your first two years (or more!), don’t lose heart.  The strength that you gain through your widow/widower’s journey will be hard fought and priceless.  

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