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I miss them

Tuesday, February 2, 2016
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Miss you…


I’m in the midst of a transition with my 2 children.  They are not living here at home, and that’s a good thing for them   My 24 year old son is in Chicago in his first apartment with his girlfriend, and my 22-year old daughter is away at college.  They both come home when they can, but it’s a new emotional place for me.  My kids have almost always been home or close by home, and now they are doing their thing, which is exactly what they should be doing.


I miss them.  It’s as simple as that. 


I see all their accomplishments, and I sometimes think about what Dick would be thinking and saying about how far they have come.  These 2 young adults, with all that they have weathered with losing their father, are incredible people.  Can Dick “see” how they are doing?  Is he sharing their highs and their lows and their trials and tribulations?  I feel like the 3 of them are connected together somehow, somewhere.   He is present in their ebb and flow of their lives. I feel strongly about that.


This is the part of moving on that just takes time.  When Dick died 7 years ago, it was the 3 of us coping with all those memories.  The 3 of us have now branched out to other relationships, and that is a good thing.   Our bond will always be tight, whether in our home or in their own homes.  That is growth, and growth is good.  It may not be easy but it is good in the long run. 


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