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Tuesday, June 16, 2015
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Becky Lichucki

Last night we were having one of our nightly conversations. We were talking about the 10 Commandments as God's rules for our lives. I paraphrased a few of them into things that Munchkin could understand and my translation of adultery was that "God says we can only be married to one person".
Munchkin looked perplexed..."But mama, what if God wants you to get married again?"


My head filled with a million thoughts...
-what if I want to be married again?
-would I ever have anyone as special as Robert again?
-Why am I even having this conversation with a 6 year old?
-Why on earth do I even have to explain how people are technically married, but not really married when someone dies?
My head was spinning with the speed and depth of my thoughts.

I took a breath and answered him as best as I know how.
"If God puts someone in our lives then there are things that mommy could do in the church to get married again and it would be ok"

Thankfully, for the moment he was satisfied with that answer, because honestly, I am not sure that I am up to discussing a Catholic annulment with him!
He went to bed without further exploration of the topic.

I however, was still reeling. I am sometimes silenced by the thoughtful questions that he has for me, and I remind myself that I am his first and best teacher and I answer him in ways that do my best to nurture his curiosity and make him feel safe and valued for his questions. My hope is that when he is a teenager, I can still be his source of information instead of having him get answers from the media.

I realize that as painful as his questions sometimes are, that his curiosity is normal.

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