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Advocate For Your Kids!

Monday, July 27, 2015
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Scott Bauer

Your kids have been through hell and back. So have we, but let’s focus on what needs to be done for your children. Kids need to find that “safe place,” the place where they can go and feel normal. The place that they can go and just be “another kid.”

Unfortunately, even in this day and age, many of our schools do not have the resources to properly deal with grieving kids in the classroom. Teachers have not taken a class on how to deal with their grieving student. Most administrators haven’t and quite frankly, many social workers are not learned about this either.

Think about how many times a day you may just daydream or “zone out” for a second, a minute, or even longer. Think about how many times a day you need to go take a walk or even take a moment to feel sorry for yourself and cry. Now think about your child sitting in school, not wanting to pay attention because they’re thinking about their mom or dad. Think about your child perhaps being a bit fidgety and not able to concentrate. Don’t you think this happens all the time? What if your child’s teacher(s) don’t understand? What if your child’s counselor says, “come on, you really need to try and concentrate?”

Believe it or not, this is more commonplace than not. Not because teachers are mean or insensitive, but because they haven’t been properly trained to deal with children’s grief in the classroom. And what is more important than your child being treated fairly at school? Can you think of anything?

It is imperative and incumbent on you to be your child’s ADVOCATE! Don’t feel awkward asking to speak with their teachers, social workers, etc… Don’t feel bad asking for “extra help” for your child. Don’t feel bad allowing your child to take a free pass. Don’t feel bad discussing your child’s situation with their teachers. They spend more time with your kids each day then we do!

As mentioned earlier, many schools don’t have the resources to help our children. That is why YOU must speak up and take the bull by the horns. Make the first move – don’t wait until you learn that your child is behind because he is not paying attention or not doing homework. Call your principal, call your school social worker and certainly reach out to each and every teacher that your child has.

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